MOURNING & DREAMING OF THE DEAD

Dreaming of Those Who Have Passed to Spirit (mediumship dreams)

Energy and vibrational frequency are concepts that are becoming better understood even in the realm of physicists. (quantum physics). Most mediums acknowledge that they must alter their vibrational frequency to make a connect with someone who has passed on Communication with those who have passed on is more logical than the average person is able to comprehend.

“Is it our subconscious minds that meet, I in sleep and he in this cosmic (death) plane as a vibratory force meets a radio machine and causes a sound when the radio is turned on?”

Cayce: “That is an illustration. Both minds must be in the same attunement or vibration and separated from the physical consciousness; for these are of the spiritual consciousness. Only through an attunement may a message (from a departed one) be received.” EC

The most common dream experience in spirit communication is related to the message which in essence says, “I am fine and happy. Your grief, however, is holding me back and making me sad. You can help me greatly by trying to overcome your sorrow. YOU MUST STOP GRIEVING!” Cayce

Dreaming of the Dead… from a psychological point of view…

Mourning Dreams

When someone passes away we miss them and go through “mourning”. Kubler-Ross wrote extensively on the stages of mourning (although all her studies were debunked by the scientific community her core concepts & life work deserve acknowledgement and respect) – according to Kubler-Ross we go through 4 stages to reach acceptance of death – denial, anger, bargaining, and acceptance (maybe 5?).

Initially when we lose someone our dreams will show them in terrible physical condition, suffering, sad, helpless. This reflects our own pain in loss.

As we go through the mourning stages towards acceptance the dead loved one gets healthier and more joyful which reflects our inner growth towards acceptance of their passing.

The more psychological work we have done on the relationship before the death, the faster and less painful this journey will be. Unresolved issues will generate a sticky and unhealthy attachment to the dead loved one resulting in a number of manifestations of neurosis.

Dreaming of a Dead Loved One

1. Introjections (Gestalt) those qualities that we disliked the most in the loved one responding to a psychological need for acceptance and forgiveness. For example if your mother was a bank robber and you didn’t like that quality in her and rejected her in life for this quality – and you never work this through with her – after her death you will begin to have fantasies of robbing banks and then you’ll rob banks in an effort to forgive and accept her to let her go.
2. Extremes in memories – either overly maudlin or glorifying the dead – they were monsters or angels!
3. Projections – seeing the dead loved on in everyone you meet – projecting their “mothering” “fathering” onto other people in your life.
4. Feeling compelled to do whatever it was the dead one asked you to do before they died – ie. “Always look after your baby sister” turns into your supporting her, mopping up her messes, going to jail for her…
5. Fear of death. Avoiding all things related to death – ie. Hospitals, cemeteries, other loved ones who are dying etc. Getting more and fearful about taking risks leading to agoraphobia.
6. Hypochondria. Every pimple becomes evidence of cancer, every anxiety attack becomes a heart attack, every gas pain becomes bowel cancer…
7. Belief that you will die the same age. If the loved one died at 52 so will you.
8. Superstitious obsessions (leading to obsessive compulsive behaviour) – stepping on a broken sidewalk will result in being in an accident and becoming a paraplegic and then dying.
9. Survival guilt. You are living and they are dead therefore you can’t accept joy, pleasure or satisfaction – gifts of this manifested world – leading you to avoid any activity or object that offers any degree of sensual pleasure. Sleeping on a bed of nails, starvation, limited material possessions – odd sexual deviancy.

Dreaming of the dead therefore from a psychological perspective is the psyche working to heal itself of this relational breach and connection.

Spiritual Perspective

It’s the veil thinning – the ego is asleep therefore the veil between the unseen and seen worlds can thin allowing more of the unseen world energy to permeate. Loved ones come through this thinner veil to:

1. Bring words of solace. Don’t be sad! Your sadness drags me back to this world and I want to be free!!
2. Bring words of encouragement. You can do it! Go for it – your life in manifested form is short in the grand scheme of things! ie. a mother might return to connect with her child after passing realizing that it was a mistake on her part which veered her child off her natural path – she cannot actualize unless mom can reverse the damage she did – likely unwittingly! but nonetheless this may now stand in the path of her development spiritually until she fixes it.
3. Apologies. I’m sorry for being such a jerk when I was alive. I love you and I regret what a pain I was to you when I was there.
4. Guidance. Don’t do this or that, and do this or that. This is the way to a joyful life for you – do this and that to bring yourself back on the path to light!
5. Assurances of joy after death. Dying is great! I feel better than ever – you’re going to love it too and I’ll wait for you and we’ll be together again.
6. Past life information. The loved one comes back to give you a sense of where you were before you came to earth and the continuity of your soul’s existence and learning and how this life fits into the bigger picture of your soul’s journey to enlightenment.
7. Longevity. A sense of your own mortality and how long you really have here – a sort of time frame for this life span.

Hope and Guidance

Dreams of a dead loved one can open psychic doors and is often the first glimmer they have of their true psychic life, abilities, and vistas of possibility. These are very special dreams and should be kept close to your heart. They open doors of possibility for us and give hope and guidance for everyone not just yourself. They are given to be shared.